3 Ways to let go of the past and embrace the future

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3 Ways to let go of the past and embrace the future

Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland. Isaiah 43:18-19 

Letting go of the past. Where do I start? I don’t know how to let go! I want to let go yet find myself in some weird limbo. The distorted view that if I let go, what has hurt me will win. Yet, the shocking truth is this: Not letting go is keeping me and you from living. So the pain, hurt, and disappointment are winning.

Jesus whispers, I have so much more for you. Do you trust me?

Ah, trust! A single word which sends us running into self-preservation, self-reliance, and reluctance to change. We dig our heels in deep, adamant to not be the first person to lower our sword or take the higher ground. Sometimes my heart shouts “I’m tired of doing the right thing. I want a break.” Truth be told, my heart screams its protest to a deaf audience.

I find myself facing an all too familiar reality – the only person I can control and change is…Me! My heart’s eyes roll in resignation and exasperation. I look towards the ocean of change which is my life. I look down to the chain holding my feet onto the shore. In my hand is a single ivory key with the word Permission engraved on it.

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Permission? For what? To let go. Permission to be me. Permission to explore the vast depths of God’s love and delight. Permission to embrace joy and courage. Permission to be free.

The time is now for you and me to let go of our past. This doesn’t mean we forget. Rather, we remember the truth but are no longer enslaved by its pain or disappointment. Our past stops being our present and takes its place as our history, a mere reference point.

Every deliberate act of letting go takes us one step forward into the life we desire. The life full of purpose and that overall satisfaction of just being yourself unashamedly and unapologetically. With each choice we make we discover life is not as against us as we think nor is it a pit of despair and helplessness.

We let go and move on.

But how?

We can start letting go by using these 3 ways to let go of the past and live joyful, grace-filled, and free lives.

#1 Soften our hearts

You and I cannot change our past or the way we have been treated. We can’t even change our own past behavior. We do have control over what we are going to say and do now.

We can ask God to help us soften our hearts towards each person in our lives. By being more empathic and understanding, we are able to see both sides of the story. Suddenly, our role is no longer that of victim but participant. You and I each had a role to play in those memories. We said things we shouldn’t have or did things we regret.

You and I can lower our swords and seek God’s forgiveness, ask for forgiveness, and forgive ourselves.

#2 Take ownership

No matter what my past is, I get to have a say in my life today. The choices we make today determine the life we have tomorrow. Own your choices. Take responsibility for what you have chosen in every area of your life. This is where your power lies.

Passing blame onto other people leaves you and me powerless. Blame never solved any situation nor did it change the past. The past is done, move on.
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#3 Look to the hope and future

Other ways to let go of the past is to stand on the truth that God has given you hope and a future. He has declared over you many promises and blessings none of which will He go back on. God always intends to meet His promises; His yes is yes.

Remind yourself of God’s promises over your life. Read through them. Pray them into your life. Use God’s promises and His truth to renew your mind. Accept that what has happened to you has made you into the person you are today. See who you are and embrace you! Keep on moving forward into all that life has to offer you.


By | 2018-10-24T16:13:41+00:00 October 16th, 2018|Practical Christian Living, Renew your mind and heart|14 Comments


  1. Chemeeka Sparks 23rd October 2018 at 23:11 - Reply

    We are stuck so many times simply because we don’t feel that we have the freedom to be ourselves. Powerful message!

    • Ailie 24th October 2018 at 13:05 - Reply

      Hi Cheemeka thanks for stopping by. So glad you found the post encouraging.

  2. Malinda OHara 23rd October 2018 at 23:41 - Reply

    Looking to Gods truth about hope for the eternal future is really all that has kept me going the last year after unexpectedly losing my father. Thank you for this reminder.

    • Ailie 24th October 2018 at 12:45 - Reply

      Hi Malinda. Thanks for stopping by. Im sorry about your dad. Praying the Lord continues to strengthen and comfort you at this time. Xx

  3. Mommy & Mia Homeschool Chronicles 24th October 2018 at 16:05 - Reply

    These are right on target! Why do we hold onto to past hurts? Thank you so much or sharing this perspective. I think that holding onto past hurts is easier than to take ownership. No one ever thinks to consider their part in a situation.

    • Ailie 27th October 2018 at 00:44 - Reply

      That’s such a good question. I think we often hold onto to past hurts because we want to be avenged or to see justice. What we often miss is that holding onto our hurts affects us more than the people who hurt us. It has a direct link to forgiveness and, as you mentioned, ownership. We need to own our stuff, forgive, and let go.

  4. waynna 24th October 2018 at 17:13 - Reply

    These are such great things to implement when I feel like I’m dwelling on the past. I love the one that talks about permission. Like it says it’s okay to move forward. I often find it hard to forget the ‘former’ things & forget that He wants to do the work if I let Him. Thank you so much for sharing!

    • Ailie 27th October 2018 at 00:42 - Reply

      Hey Waynna, I’m so glad you enjoyed the post. Yea permission has been a big one for me too. ha ha ha ha I do have a chuckle when I realize I need to be given permission to enjoy life or let go of something. God has so much for us; all we have to do is let go and grab hold of it.

  5. Jordan 24th October 2018 at 17:46 - Reply

    This is great and a message I needed to hear this morning. Thank you!

    • Ailie 27th October 2018 at 00:40 - Reply

      Hey Jordan 🙂 I’m so glad you were encouraged through this post. Yay! Praying God holds you close to His heart. xxx

  6. Sharla 24th October 2018 at 18:39 - Reply

    Is 43:19 is my verse for the last two years..God has been transitioning me to something new. It’s not easy, but Trusting Him and His perfect plan.

    • Ailie 27th October 2018 at 00:39 - Reply

      Hey Sharla 🙂 Amen! Praying the transition is full of God’s grace and that you experience much joy. His plans are perfect. This is your time xxx

  7. Colleen 24th October 2018 at 22:48 - Reply

    Thank you for reminding us that the past is just that…the past. We must move on and into the future.

    • Ailie 27th October 2018 at 00:38 - Reply

      Thanks for stopping by Colleen 🙂 Glad you enjoyed the post

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